THE YIN-YANG FALLACY
im a firm believr in the 'men n women can nevr be friends' theory..i dont even want to elaborate coz so many cheap flicks have made it their central theme n completely candyflossed what is pretty much THE truth about gender-bonding..ok in a word, men n women can nevr be friends because theres always sex lurking around the corner..
today however im at somewhat of a crossroad..are there exceptions to the rule? because surely there must b women whom i cant b sexually attracted to..what about obese women, bald women, midgets, chicks with dicks..? id nevr b attracted to these women right..yeah yeah im shallow so fuck me..but in all honesty, certainly its possible to be friends wt these women..does that leave out all attractive women then? am i really incapable of being friends wt beautiful women? if sex is a possibility, then yes, i guess. but there are attractive, intelligent, funny, compassionate women who im not atracted to surely? not on a physical level i mean? and i know im not going to fall in love with one, so that means i can be friends right?
thats what i thought too till recently. but apparently, my own convictions played themselves out in somebody elses head. apparently, there is no real possibility of being friends wt a girl. coz if its not sex, its something else. its girlfriends, its hang-ups, its differences. being friends is just not a possibilty. yin-yang doesnt quite work on platonic levels so ur either a couple or ur not. theres no go-between.
posted by ninetieschild @ 3:37 AM
11 Comments:
Yep, I agree 100%. It is damn tough to 'stay' friends with a woman who turns you on. And even in the case of a woman who doesn't turn you on at first, it often happens that after a while the bonding gets so deep that you don't mind getting into bed with her ... though initially you never would have thought it possible.
cheers mate!
im not so sure thats wht i was talking abt but that is true..i mean the only way men n women cn really be friends is if theyre both ugly as hell.. yeah yeah the anti-sexist broad minded un-conservative brigade can go take a cold shower.
well actually theyve been taking too many cold showers!
hmmm u actually got me thinking on this one.. like seriuos interospection. nt just plain intellectual bullshit.
ok personally i think u can be jus friends with a guy. &vice versa.. i mean so u jus wont have any female/ male friends? its psychotic dude.. i mean yea there are those who u might just want to hav sex with but there will be pretty women who u connect to!may be not sexually.. but on an intellectual level..
and im sure u hav differences with ur guy pals as well.. its jus a difference in opinion naa?
but question: if u really connect(mentally:) with a girl and say u like her. but she thinks you guys are just friends.. would you say fuck it, th relationshp is not worth the pain.. or be jus friends?
well i think the fuck up here is ur assuming id even want a relationship baliga..im just talking abt very physical things..im saying evn if im in a meaningful reltnshp wt someone else, as long as this friend is capable of turning me on it wont work..n if u think u connect wt a girl thats the biggest turn on..making things worse..
hmm my mistake in assuming tht ud want a relationship...
but are u telling me there are no friends( who are gils..)u can relate to in a non sexual way? ugly or not..
or are u saying when u do relate to them it becomes a turn on..? indulge me on this pls.. :)
btw would u ever act on impulse.. then wallow in the relationship coz u started it and u dont want to end it..? jus wondering..
me the ultimate wallow-er..i wallow n wallow n wallow..ive made an art of it..a speciality..evry single relationshp in my life i wallow in..evry single one..
wht i mean is one) theres the initial attraction thing..u see someone n theyre hot ..second..evn the ones ur not attrcated to initially, the second they turn out to be smart n funny n witty n with-me, its all uphill agen..thats such a turn on, a chick who gets wt ur talking abt..
not that i cant relate to them..just that the moment u relate, its hard not to imagine being fellated as well..to put it crassly..
thank god i dont relate to anyone man..lol..
icy ..man i am totally with u on this ....happens all the time to me..lol
but still cant stop myself from relating...*sigh*
aah in the end v're all incurable romantics sreicanth..
i think u scare ppl into not saying wat they feel.. atleast the ppl who know u, coz u will try to embibe ur views in them..
umm bit of a personal attack that mannequin..hehe..i didnt know i was evn capable of intimidating people..feeling quite good abt it now that u say it..lol..
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